{"content":{"sharePage":{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"67577078","dateCreated":"1400306033","smartDate":"May 16, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Taokemur","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Taokemur","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67577078"},"dateDigested":1532140140,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE","description":"I hate to admit that sometimes I use the "I have a boyfriend" excuse. After I use the excuse, sometimes I feel guilty about it and sometimes I think that the guy deserves it. I think that sometimes we use excuses like that to be nice about letting the guy know we aren't interested. Sometimes, the excuse about the boyfriend could be true in which case the girl then sounds loyal. But if the boy uses the girlfriend excuse he sounds whipped as if she wore the pants in their relationships. I think eventually everyone will meet the person they want to meet and the other person will be interested too. Excuses just help get rid of the people we aren't meant to be with.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67577076","dateCreated":"1400306032","smartDate":"May 16, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Taokemur","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Taokemur","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67577076"},"dateDigested":1532140140,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE","description":"I hate to admit that sometimes I use the "I have a boyfriend" excuse. After I use the excuse, sometimes I feel guilty about it and sometimes I think that the guy deserves it. I think that sometimes we use excuses like that to be nice about letting the guy know we aren't interested. Sometimes, the excuse about the boyfriend could be true in which case the girl then sounds loyal. But if the boy uses the girlfriend excuse he sounds whipped as if she wore the pants in their relationships. I think eventually everyone will meet the person they want to meet and the other person will be interested too. Excuses just help get rid of the people we aren't meant to be with.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67573792","dateCreated":"1400273830","smartDate":"May 16, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Mkccn96744","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Mkccn96744","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67573792"},"dateDigested":1532140140,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Ce9","description":"I can agree with this. I feel like if we keep using this excuse it really makes us look bad as if we need a boy to let other boys know that you aren't interested. Why do we need another guy to get one guys respect? Isn't a girl worth more than that? I feel like the guy is totally looking past the girls and will only respect a girl if she is with a mother man. Thus the respect goes to the boy, not the girl.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67571430","dateCreated":"1400261774","smartDate":"May 16, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Mekegans","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Mekegans","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/pic\/1395131025\/Mekegans-lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67571430"},"dateDigested":1532140140,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE#9","description":"I completely overlooked "I have a boyfriend," not once did I consider that it was taking power away from me. Since I do have a boyfriend, if a guy started getting too flirty, I honestly would tell him the truth: that I have a boyfriend. Now that I think about it, I can see how it can mean that I don't want to talk to him only because I'm in a relationship, not because I'm not interested. On the other hand, I don't think guys look down on girls who say that they have boyfriends unless its an obvious lie. I think whether you reply that you're not interested, or have a boyfriend (actually in a relationship) a guys response would be any different. "I'm not interested" probably works as the "I have a boyfriend" excuse so why not use it.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67562776","dateCreated":"1400224570","smartDate":"May 16, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"krsaito","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/krsaito","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67562776"},"dateDigested":1532140140,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #9","description":"I can understand the writer's point of view about making excuses to avoid men. While it must lower a guys self-esteem to put himself out there, the way some guys approach the situation isn't the most welcoming. I know whenever my friends and I are approached by a random guy, we instantly think "creeper alert." We try to keep talking, but some people can be so persistent that an excuse is the only way to escape. Although I must admit, honesty usually is the best policy since most people have good intentions.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67561952","dateCreated":"1400214471","smartDate":"May 15, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Kelinatw","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Kelinatw","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67561952"},"dateDigested":1532140140,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #9","description":"I can't exactly relate to this quote but I definitely think that men should respect women and their requests. It is sad to hear that this happens in everyday life for most women. I hope that in the future there can be more class in society so that everyone is respected if they say no in this type of situation.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67561078","dateCreated":"1400208447","smartDate":"May 15, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"HoakaleiDawson","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/HoakaleiDawson","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67561078"},"dateDigested":1532140140,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #9","description":"Personally I have never used the "I have a boyfriend" excuse because I feel like the guy is just looking into my soul and my soul is just whispering back "she's lying to you dumbass". That's just mean and I would feel incredibly guilty. Also I would never want to put down somebody that fast for no real reason too, it's just rude. This doesn't actually happen often to me with the younger guys or guys my age, it's usually with older people who don't know a lick about me who confront me in this manner and dont realize I'm still in highschool. So when this does happen I usually just pull the "owe I'm still in high school" excuse. It's pretty pathetic though especially when the guy is super attractive, but hey there are more sharks in the oceans. I totally understand that everyone goes out sometimes to have a good time with their friends and don't always want to get hit on, but it's really inevitable due to the way we are made, we are bound to find someone in the room attractive wherever we go. Some people will just take that leap to get to know them. Others would just creepishly stare from the sidelines. For me personally I would rather them come up to me and have a casual conversation and then throw in the subtle "im not interested" responses. It's really up to how we want to respond. It doesn't matter if you're a boy, girl, young, old, gay, straight, lesbian, we always have our own voice and our own choice.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67560486","dateCreated":"1400204815","smartDate":"May 15, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"TaylorGP","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/TaylorGP","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67560486"},"dateDigested":1532140140,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE#9","description":"I know this has been an issue for quite some time. Sometimes, when I am scrolling through my Tumblr blog, I sometimes text message photos of men who approach females and the female automatically replies, "I have a boyfriend" and sometimes guys will find that not a reason to stop engaging in conversation.
\n
\nPersonally, I would use the excuse. If I don't want to talk to a guy, regardless of the fact that I may be single. This is just a girl's way to escape a problem from happening. I mean sure you can be nice and all and continue in conversation but hey you can just give the guy a friendly reminder and maybe the conversation would continue on as a friendly type of thing. There is nothing wrong with being friends. But most of the time, we know its not going to happen because guys want a girl, not a friend when they are at the club.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67558206","dateCreated":"1400191153","smartDate":"May 15, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Jbotelho","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Jbotelho","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67558206"},"dateDigested":1532140141,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #9","description":"This post is definitely something to think about. I never thought that saying "I have a boyfriend" was such a big deal. Girls usually just say it because they don't want to be hit on. I understand where the article is coming from, women shouldn't have to lie about their relationship status just to get away from someone. Being persistent and saying no to someone seems like a hard way to go but it makes the most sense. Why should any girl have to lie about their relationship status just to make a guy leave them alone. If you don't want to talk to them make it a point and stand your ground.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67557506","dateCreated":"1400188114","smartDate":"May 15, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Mikaylalum","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Mikaylalum","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67557506"},"dateDigested":1532140141,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #9","description":"It's actually interesting to read an article about this topic because I have heard and seen a lot of people tell a guy or a girl that they are in relationships, as an excuse not to talk to them. Sometimes, yes it is true and they're restricting the conversation from going on any longer, but I have seen many use this because they started a conversation that they either don't want to finish or they can't. I've done this before I had a boyfriend because I have gone to some sketch places with sketchy boys and I thought they were creepy so I said I had a boyfriend. Most of the time I used it because I was creeped out by the guy, I'm not sure if I would ever do that in the future if I was ever single again. I feel like guys definitely have control in these situations, I'm not sure why they always have to make the first move. I guess it's just that it's always been that way, and when you watch a movie, guys usually are the ones making the first moves. I guess it's somewhat of a stereotype that they always have to or it's "weird". I think guys, if they ever wanted to stop a conversation or let a girl down easy, they could just tell her straight up. Me, personally, I think I would want to be told the truth other than a lie, maybe not the whole truth but just like "I'm not interested" in a kind manner. Of course if the guy was an ass (excuse my language) then I would definitely be a little hurt, but if it was a nice guy who said that to me in a way that wouldn't make me look bad, then I would want that over a lie. Which I guess means I shouldn't lie, I should jut be straight up with them. I feel bad, if the guy is nice, but I haven't done that in a while. If the guy is creepy or he's "thirsty" then I do not feel bad whatsoever, because those guys do not value women in the right way, for the right reasons.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]}],"more":true},"comments":[]},"http":{"code":200,"status":"OK"},"redirectUrl":null,"javascript":null,"notices":{"warning":[],"error":[],"info":[],"success":[]}}