{"content":{"sharePage":{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"66340450","dateCreated":"1393576039","smartDate":"Feb 28, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"cokiehm","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/cokiehm","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/66340450"},"dateDigested":1532140230,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE#2","description":"I agree with the author of the first article- this is just too out of hand! I've seen some extreme "proposals" and I personally think that they are just too overboard. It puts a tremendous amount of pressure on the boy and the girl is almost obligated to say yes because it is such a public event. Girls also tend to tack on feelings and emotions to these large, public events and she may take it the wrong way. Maybe she thinks the boy has feelings for her, but he really doesn't. The emotional risk and impact on either side is too great.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"66340340","dateCreated":"1393574252","smartDate":"Feb 27, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"krsaito","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/krsaito","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/66340340"},"dateDigested":1532140230,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #2","description":"After reading both of the articles, I could totally relate to stress and drama of prom season. Each year people try to outdo each other for who can have the best \u201cpromposal,\u201d which quickly becomes a competition or transforms into a huge scene. Instead people should focus on finding someone who they genuinely want to take. With enough stress over trying to find a date, girls shouldn\u2019t have to worry if someone is going to ask them in a super extravagant matter or question why their date didn\u2019t have as big of an ask. In addition, guys always think that prom is super easy for girls. All they have to do is wait to be asked; when in actuality girls are stuck playing the waiting game in hope that the boy we want to go with will ask us. Prior to bids, we have to drop some subtle hints without being too obvious or hope that one of our friends will help us find a date.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"66340138","dateCreated":"1393571435","smartDate":"Feb 27, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Kelinatw","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Kelinatw","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/66340138"},"dateDigested":1532140230,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #2","description":"I totally agree with both articles. I definitely think that prom askings are getting a little outrageous. I have asked and have been asked, I think it's best to do it plain and simple. The first time I asked someone, I was overly stressed thinking he would say no and I put way too much effort into it just to get a simple yes from him. The second time I asked there was nothing special to it and it worked out even better because there was less stress. Although I have only been asked once, I think it was nice that there was nothing complex about it. I think that it is cute how some go to extremes to ask, but personally I think that prom askings are overrated. I feel that the though and time should go into an actual marriage proposal because you might not be spending the rest of your life with your prom date.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"66339510","dateCreated":"1393562742","smartDate":"Feb 27, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Mikaylalum","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Mikaylalum","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/66339510"},"dateDigested":1532140230,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #2","description":"I found this current event very interesting and actually intriguing. I never did really look at it that way, how "promposals" could be seen as competitive or who really was the star of the asking: was it the guy asking or the girl being asked? I used to adore guys who went all out when they asked a girl, but now that I realize it, just simply asking would be fine. A bouquet of flowers maybe, but no need for the singing or dancing or band. I always ask my family members or teachers questions like "How did you ask your date to prom?" or "How were you asked to prom? Was it cute?" and they always reply,"They just asked me. Nothing fancy," exactly how this guy had described it. After this current event, I realize prom askings are expectations in high school and put on so much pressure for the guy or the girl.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"66338576","dateCreated":"1393556293","smartDate":"Feb 27, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Jbotelho","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Jbotelho","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/66338576"},"dateDigested":1532140231,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #2","description":"These posts are very interesting but so very true. Boys are expected to ask girls to prom well because girls are more sensitive and like feeling special. Every girl dreams of a big asking because it makes them feel good. The 15 points that were made in one of the articles are so very true about how no one wants to take pictures alone or if you don't get asked, you don't go. I for one think getting asked is cute because thats what girls look forward too and it is the base from prom.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"66337488","dateCreated":"1393551438","smartDate":"Feb 27, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Syhalcro","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Syhalcro","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/66337488"},"dateDigested":1532140231,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE#2","description":"Prom is one of the biggest function in a school. Every girl dreams of having the most magical time with the perfect date. Many movies like Cinderella Story have the prom story where you have the best magical moment with the guy of your dreams. Like in the article. those boys all went out of their way to ask their date to the prom. I feel that being asked in the traditional. "Will you go to prom with me?" Is totally fine, but in todays society girls I guess "expect" more. However I am totally fine with the traditional way. Its just nice to be asked. I feel when guys go to extravagant measures that's just icing on the top. :) Personally I know how it feels to do the asking and being asked. I asked someone to junior prom and made puzzle pieces asking him to prom. It was a lot of work but worth it so I give any guy props when they go out of their way to make a "special" proposal. Asking someone to a function is nerve racking, and you don't know whether they will say yes or no. Just seeing their reaction before they reply is nerve racking. So after reading this article, I think the traditional asking is alright but It nice to be given flowers :)","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"66336078","dateCreated":"1393544132","smartDate":"Feb 27, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"suyamada","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/suyamada","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/pic\/1390454468\/suyamada-lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/66336078"},"dateDigested":1532140231,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #2","description":"Everybody wants to be somebody in high school. If you can impress the girl you like by extravagantly asking her to prom, then why not, right? However, the repercussions are severe. As a girl going through this process I find it somewhat upsetting if I'm not asked to prom. I don't want to say it makes me feel any lesser than the other girls, but there's this tiny little voice inside that just keeps saying that there must be something wrong with me if I'm not getting asked. It's fun to watch promposals, but it makes me secretly jealous that I'm not that girl. Promposals also accentuate the fact that girls can't ask guys to prom. This hurts high school populations in more ways than one. Why should it be weird for girls to ask guys? Girls shouldn't not go to their prom if they aren't asked. There are so many things that poison our minds in high school. Although promposals are cute and exciting, they are setting up our generation for more years of gender bias.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"66332720","dateCreated":"1393532557","smartDate":"Feb 27, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"JTLB","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/JTLB","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/66332720"},"dateDigested":1532140231,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #2","description":"Prom season is crazy. It's filled with tremendous amounts of drama to find a date and tons of money spent to buy tickets, pictures, suits, and dresses. On top of that the "promposal" is extremely stressful too. For a guy it is truly one of the hardest things to do. Many girls claim that they wouldn't care if a boy just simply asked them to prom, but in actuality every girl wants to top the girl that got asked before her. For a guy we feel that pressure to top the guy that asked before you. The last thing a guy ever wants to do is let down a girl. Personally, I think its so over rated. You're only committing yourself to that person for one night. I don't quite understand why the question must be asked as if you're going to spend the rest of your life with them. At the end of the day, it's something that has developed in our society now that if a guy doesn't "do it big" he isn't trying hard enough. We're stuck. That's the way it's going to be because no matter how much you tell guys to tone down the "promposals" and no matter how much you tell girls to not expect a big deal, it'll always become a competition and go back to the way it was.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"66332486","dateCreated":"1393531810","smartDate":"Feb 27, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Mkccn96744","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Mkccn96744","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/66332486"},"dateDigested":1532140231,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"You can buy a dress, but you can't buy a date ","description":"Promposals
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\nPromprosals is one of the many reasons why I enjoy being a girl in high school. Sure the mood swings and the need to dress your best is a buzz kill, but it's not as daunting as having to ask a girl to prom. Take it from me, asking someone to a dance, prom, or banquet, is a nerve wracking ordeal. I agree that Promprosals aren't necessary because it's not like you are getting married. However, I think it is flattering that someone is willing to go through a lot and make an elaborate plan just to ask you to prom. It shows that they really put effort and want you to say yes.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"66332328","dateCreated":"1393531242","smartDate":"Feb 27, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Jowataru","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Jowataru","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/66332328"},"dateDigested":1532140231,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE 2","description":"This article sheds a lot of good light on the many tough situations that prom puts people through. I honestly think that it should be a lot more simple and that we should not have to face all of the pressure that goes along with asking somebody to prom. All of the stigmas and expectations often turn people away from going with the person that they actually want to go with. The fear of being turned down and embarrassed can be crippling to a boy who just wants to ask the girl of his dreams to go to prom with him. Like the article said, asking a girl to prom is not the same as proposing so why do people have to make it just like a real marriage proposal. A marriage can last a lifetime, prom is for one night. The events leading up to both events should reflect that.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]}],"more":true},"comments":[]},"http":{"code":200,"status":"OK"},"redirectUrl":null,"javascript":null,"notices":{"warning":[],"error":[],"info":[],"success":[]}}