{"content":{"sharePage":{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"67125992","dateCreated":"1397767862","smartDate":"Apr 17, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"rearakaw1","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/rearakaw1","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67125992"},"dateDigested":1532140450,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #6","description":"I can completely understand where the author is coming from. I see it in the way that people describe certain women. What could easily be described as good leadership skills for a man is described as being bossy. Or being aggressive for a women is unacceptable, but for a man it is encouraged because it shows how passionate they are in something. As unfair as it may seem, I feel like there is no easy solution to this because society has programmed everyone to give different labels to certain men and women even when they're behavior mirrors one another.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67125990","dateCreated":"1397767851","smartDate":"Apr 17, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"krsaito","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/krsaito","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67125990"},"dateDigested":1532140450,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #6","description":"Even though I tell myself that it shouldn't matter what other people think of me, it actually does affect me. I definitely don't want to change who I am for anybody, but I don't want to be ridiculed either. Being embarrassed in front of a large group of people can be traumatic. Therefore sometimes I just want to blend in with the crowd. I know I sometimes catch myself laughing at someone's comment; however, I have to remember that they also put a lot of thought and effort into their answer. So it admire the author for being so willing to voice her opinion on a regular basis because hopefully I can gradually become more engaged in voicing my opinion.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67124970","dateCreated":"1397762347","smartDate":"Apr 17, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Kamfong1","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Kamfong1","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67124970"},"dateDigested":1532140450,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #6","description":"The author of this article has very strong opinions even in her writing style!  The way that women are judged in the work place can be very degrading and she has a great example.  The fact that the superior who offended her was a fellow female; made her experience even more severe.  I believe that being assertive, opininative, and bold is much different than being pushy, overly aggressive, and obnoxious.  Her argument for independent females is strong and completely agreeable.  Teaching young girls that the word "bossy" should not offend them will help later generations of females in the work environment to gain much deserved respect.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67124700","dateCreated":"1397760915","smartDate":"Apr 17, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"JTLB","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/JTLB","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67124700"},"dateDigested":1532140451,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #6","description":"I always thought that women wanted to be known as bossy. When I hear the word bossy I think of a boss, a manager, an executive, the president. When I hear the word bossy I think of a person who is demanding, assertive, and most importantly, in charge.  However, this is when bossy is used in the positive way. I guess its true that bossy can be used in a negative way and can be hurtful towards people.  I think we should push to use the word bossy in the positive way. If I were a girl who was trying to make major moves in life, I would have no shame in being called bossy.  I would take being called bossy as a compliment because it shows that your characteristics are catching peoples attention and reflects that of someone who is taking control, and if I were a female that is what I would want to do.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67124244","dateCreated":"1397759502","smartDate":"Apr 17, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Mekegans","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Mekegans","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/pic\/1395131025\/Mekegans-lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67124244"},"dateDigested":1532140451,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE#6","description":"It has never occured to me how only women really get called "bossy". What's the equivalent for men? This article made me feel sad for the author, she was so passionate and excited, only to be shot down by her idol. I've never really been called aggressive but I have been called bossy and I know it does not feel good. There's definitely a difference between being a leader and being bossy. I feel that it is usually those who can't handle the leadership that make the kind of remark, it's a way to criticize a woman. Being aggressive is nothing to be ashamed of, these are the kind of people who get things done.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67123224","dateCreated":"1397755507","smartDate":"Apr 17, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Jowataru","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Jowataru","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67123224"},"dateDigested":1532140451,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Bossiness ","description":"Personally, I think that a persons personality or demeanor should not have anything to do with their gender. Just because somebody is male doesn't mean that he has to be stoic pridefull and tough and in the same way that a female should not automatically have to be reserved and quiet. I think that girls should be able to act how they want as long as it is appropriate and not adversely affecting another person. Girls should be free to act how they please as well as males. It should be okay for girls to be a leader and not be considered bossy or mean.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67116940","dateCreated":"1397723795","smartDate":"Apr 17, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"frpaulo","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/frpaulo","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67116940"},"dateDigested":1532140451,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE#6","description":" At a young age, I was unintentionally conditioned to *not* be "bossy," and I learned how to sit back and let someone else take charge. But really, this whole conundrum is actually pretty funny to think about. "Boss" and "bossy" are so related, just think about it. When someone is called a "boss," there's a sense of empowerment and strength. That one song that everyone sung in 9th grade, "Like A Boss," exists just to show how awesome people can be (sort of). But it's centered around males. But then there are songs with lyrics like "I'm a boss-ass bitch" (sung by PTAF or Nicki Minaj, whatever) and suddenly there's a strange negative connotation to the word, as if a woman in power means that there's something wrong with the world.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67116832","dateCreated":"1397722780","smartDate":"Apr 17, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"HoakaleiDawson","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/HoakaleiDawson","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67116832"},"dateDigested":1532140451,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #6","description":"Name calling first of all is just terrible. If I called my friend a "bitch" then what does that make me? People who name call in general, secretly, envy those they name call believe it or not. Also name calling is more frequent in conversations of the females and I have no idea why women constantly talk to much crap! It's ridiculous.  It would be nice for a change to have women or people in general talk about good things and ONLY good things about other people rather than just hating on every person that walks by. On another name calling for some people actually motivates and makes them feel good about themselves, like its a goal of theirs to be bossy, ambitious, or aggressive because some people want others to know that they mean business when they step in the room. So I think name calling really depends on your perspective and how you react, just like 90% of our survival in life.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67116612","dateCreated":"1397720758","smartDate":"Apr 17, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"Taokemur","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Taokemur","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67116612"},"dateDigested":1532140451,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #6","description":"Oh let me tell you that I've been called bossy from day one. When I tried to get into 'Iolani in kindergarten I was denied because in the classroom I was "bossy." I admit that the younger version of me was extremely bossy. In elementary school I learned how to not be bossy. But as I went through high school I gained friends that are indecisive, and wishy washy so I learned how to take charge and be aggressive. Literally sometimes we'll sit in the car and everyone will be like "idk wherever you guys wanna go" when we're hanging out so finally I just take charge and decide for us because if I don't we could be sitting there for thirty minutes because you best believe it happened one time! I know people take it as me being "bossy" but if a boy decides what he and his girl do on their date, it's just normal. Bossy is basically a mean term to call girls who like to take control and be agressive. I hate the adjective bossy!","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"67116590","dateCreated":"1397720511","smartDate":"Apr 17, 2014","userCreated":{"username":"suyamada","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/suyamada","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/pic\/1390454468\/suyamada-lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/67116590"},"dateDigested":1532140451,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"CE #6","description":"Yay! This is the campaign Beyonc\u00e9 is currently endorsing. Absolutely agree with this article. Girls are put down passive aggressively. Honestly, did you even realize this was a bad word? I had no idea growing up that this could be a sexist word. As I look back, I remember my best friend was always called bossy. All the boys called her bossy because she was a leader in group activities. She wanted the group to succeed, but that came off as aggressive and annoying. Thinking back I remember I thought it was annoying and irritating when a girl in my group decided to take charge. When a boy talked in my group, everyone listened. I am not calling myself sexist, but I definitely was biased because of my environment. It was not the administrations fault but more of my classmates and peers.  We all grew up thinking this word was okay to use. Unfortunately girls are still not viewed as natural leaders. Once we have a female president maybe viewpoints can begin to change. I feel like the world views women as the supporters who assist the leaders. For example, Michelle Obama has endorsed many campaigns and helped our country immeasurably yet she is still not viewed as a main leader. I hope my kids will grow up without this word in their vocabulary. No girl should feel bossy when she is taking charge and making decisions for a group. Girls are vulnerable at a young age and to shoot them down with this negative word is setting them up for insecurities when they are older.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]}],"more":true},"comments":[]},"http":{"code":200,"status":"OK"},"redirectUrl":null,"javascript":null,"notices":{"warning":[],"error":[],"info":[],"success":[]}}