{"content":{"sharePage":{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"14700161","dateCreated":"1253905528","smartDate":"Sep 25, 2009","userCreated":{"username":"kachikam","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/kachikam","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/14700161"},"dateDigested":1532140555,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Say What?","description":"It is appalling that a state senator would be so abusive. Senator Monserrate violently hurt his girlfriend Ms.Giraldo upon finding a man's phone number in her purse. It is upsetting that he dragged her out of the apartment and took her to a hospital thirty minutes away rather than to a hospital a couple blocks down. She was apparently bleeding severly, and his rough actions made her drop a towel soaked with blood. Senator Monserrate should be dealt with severely to let all domestic abusers know that domestic abuse will not be tolerated. Neighbors in the apartment should have contacted police immediately when they heard Ms. Giraldo's screams. People should realize that screams for help should not be taken lightly. Victims may be in serious danger, and by calling police, you may be saving their life.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"14674265","dateCreated":"1253866066","smartDate":"Sep 25, 2009","userCreated":{"username":"kekaneta","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/kekaneta","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/14674265"},"dateDigested":1532140555,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"an unfortunate reality","description":"I found this article to be very shocking. Domestic violence is one of those things that are just far too common and truly an unfortunate reality. It also is one of those things that everyone knows is common, but everyone is afraid to admit that it occurs. However I feel that it is misleadingly attached to a negative connotation which assumes that men are always at fault. Yes, many times domestic violence shows the mistreatment of women, but men can also be the victims. But in terms of women, I think that it shows mistreatment in that men take advantage of their physical strength over women and channel their anger unnecessarily harshly towards them. Men are all about their egos and I think that falling back on violence allows them to go on a power trip as they abuse the \u201csubordinate\u201d women. This is why domestic violence is so widespread. Men have a harder time dealing with issues because they are afraid of showing possibly \u201cweak\u201d emotions, so they result to violence where they can be \u201cmanly.\u201d I think that Ms. Giraldo resisted going to the hospital because she may have been ashamed or fearful of exposing her wounds and the attached emotional burden of admitting that she had fallen victim to domestic violence. Her wanting to see a plastic surgeon may be because she thought that they could fix her slashed face with their delicate suturing; thus minimizing her scar. Another possibility is that in seeing a private plastic surgeon as opposed to a clinic doctor, she could seek treatment without fear of being judged or having the truth exposed to the public. Again, I think that it all has something to do with fear of admittance. I think that Mr. Monserrate\u2019s decision to take his girlfriend to a farther hospital also could be explained by different things. One, he may have truly felt that this further hospital had better facilities which would allow his girlfriend to receive better medical care. However, it also could be because since he is well known in the area which he resides, maybe he thought that because he rarely frequented the area of the other hospital, he could receive medical attention without having to worry as much about being recognized. This makes sense because as a public figure, he has an image to uphold. And something like this incident could tarnish reputation; which has since been proved true. Preventing domestic violence is a difficult task. I think admitting that one is a victim of domestic violence is the first step because if victims hide the fact, they will never truly be able to tackle the issue and prevent future occurrences. Education about the issue may also help, but all of these measures are easier said than done.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"14673877","dateCreated":"1253863150","smartDate":"Sep 25, 2009","userCreated":{"username":"TawniMurphy","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/TawniMurphy","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/14673877"},"dateDigested":1532140555,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"unceasing horror ","description":"Why did Mr. Monserrate take his wife to the farther hospital when there is one just one block away?
\nHow can we prevent domestic violence?
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\nI think that domestic violence shows the mistreatment of women because it shows that there is either no respect, or little respect for the woman. It is just respect that people shouldn't hit other people. But I dont think that domestic violence shows the mistreatment of only women because it is a two way street. Gender-based violence also serves \u2013 by intention or effect \u2013 to perpetuate male power and control. I think that it is so widespread because it may be caused by the way that people are raised. If one is raised in an abusive environment, then they might grow up to become abusive because that was the way that they were raised.
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\nI think that she resisted to go to the hospital because she might have been ashamed of being abused. I think that he did what he did because it was a longer drive to the farther one, then it would meant that she would have to under go more pain. But I am not so sure on why she wanted to see a plastic surgeon instead..
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\nI think that domestic violence IS preventable and if not fully preventable, there are more ways to let people know what is happening. The first and foremost, but probably the hardest thing for victims to do is to speak up about the abuse so that the victim can get the help that he or she needs. Also, have families establish a Zero-Tolerance rule for violence in general. If kids aren't raised in violence, then they will be less likely to become violent as they get older.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"14673433","dateCreated":"1253860170","smartDate":"Sep 24, 2009","userCreated":{"username":"bryap","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/bryap","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/14673433"},"dateDigested":1532140555,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"WOW!!!","description":"At the end of the article, it reminded me of a horror movie like Scream or I Know What You Did Last Summer because Ms. Loundon's doorbell rang three times. She then saw a bloody towel only on the stairs. That really says that Mr. Tacopina was purposefully attacking Ms. Giraldo when she had the slice on her face. Because Ms. Loundon said she could hear the argument through her earplugs, that definitely means something was going down. I really cannot believe she wanted to go to a plastic surgeon instead of getting fixed first. But there is no excuse to hurt a woman. That is just clearly unacceptable. I still cannot believe that even though she is injured, he would still use force to get Ms. Giraldo to go; he was treating her like a rag doll. When the article said, "...leg flying...," that was clear that she was being manhandled. Just terrible I tell you.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"14673231","dateCreated":"1253858945","smartDate":"Sep 24, 2009","userCreated":{"username":"dekristin","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/dekristin","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/14673231"},"dateDigested":1532140555,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"oh man.","description":"Mr. Monserrate has gone a little too far.
\nI think although his intentions are good, he let his anger get in the way, and it ended up as a case of domestic violence. Though the first thing that comes to mind about domestic violence is the mistreatment of women, I think that a lot of people forget that sometimes the tables can be turned. Domestic violence can cause shame and embarrassment to both parties, and because of this, Ms Giraldo probably wanted to see a plastic surgeon instead, just because of privacy. Also, even though it may seem like a horrible thing to do, I think that Mr Monserrate might have done the right thing in terms of properly caring for Ms Giraldo. From personal experiences, it is obvious that some hospitals are better than others, and sometimes it can be worth the longer drive just to be treated there. Other hospitals can be unrelieable and may refer you anyway.
\nBUT...This can all be prevented.
\nMen and women, control your anger.
\nDon't cut peoples' faces.
\nSmile!
\nLive a little.
\nThe world would be a much better place without domestic violence.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"14673207","dateCreated":"1253858732","smartDate":"Sep 24, 2009","userCreated":{"username":"nipeltze","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/nipeltze","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/14673207"},"dateDigested":1532140555,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Terrible!","description":"
\nThis case of abuse toward women is just shocking! The poor women was beat up just for having another man's number in her bag! What makes her boyfriend think he has such control over her anyways? In scenarios like this one, men exercise control over females through violent methods because they are physically stronger than the female and want to exhibit their control. But they have no right to control anyone, especially a spouse or girlfriend, or to physically abuse one. It is strange that Ms. Giraldo resisted going to the hospital. I think it might be because she was ashamed of the incident and would rather have gone to a private plastic surgeon. Mr. Monserrate obviously took his girlfriend to a hospital further away because there was a less likely chance there of anyone recognizing them, or linking her injuries to his doings. Preventing domestic abuse can be challenging, and the women being abused feel terribly threatened by the abusers making them terrified of telling anyone for fear of more abuse.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"14672973","dateCreated":"1253857032","smartDate":"Sep 24, 2009","userCreated":{"username":"sarasaltman","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/sarasaltman","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/14672973"},"dateDigested":1532140555,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Never ending cycle","description":"This article was very upsetting not only because it was a blatant example of physical abuse within a home, but also because of the people that were involved in the issue. Government officials such as Hiram Monserrate, are looked upon as the "leaders" and "examples" for a community. Yet, this article proved that even leaders are susceptible to make large mistakes such as this one. Therefore, physical abuse is more common than one thinks.
\n I thought that the most upsetting part of this article was the fact that both Monserrate and his girlfriend Giraldo stated that the incident was not abuse but rather an "accident." Physical abuse is a touchy situation because when one is either the abuser or the abused, he or she sometimes does not realize that abuse is occurring. Secondly, many times out of fear, those being abused do not separate themselves from the situation. Although it is thought that abuse is usually a man physically hurting a woman, it does sometimes occur the other way around. Personally, I believe that Ms Giraldo would want to go to a plastic surgeon instead of a hospital so that it would appear she had no physical trauma. This would be important because of the fact that both Monserrate and his girlfriend are public figures and under the magnifying glass of the media. Also, plastic surgery could be used as a metaphor in that by covering up the wounds on her face, she is also covering up the existence of the physical abuse in her relationship. If we empower women to become more vocal when abuse is occurring, we may be able to lessen the frequency of physical abuse, Yet, because dominance of males is so engrained in our community, and violence is commonly seen in various media portals, our society has in a way been passive to the issue of physical abuse.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"14672983","body":"Here is the video of Monseratte: http:\/\/www.nydailynews.com\/news\/ny_crime\/2009\/09\/22\/2009-09-22_security_videos_show_queens_pol_hiram_monserrate_dragging_his_bleeding_girlfrien.html<\/a>","dateCreated":"1253857078","smartDate":"Sep 24, 2009","userCreated":{"username":"sarasaltman","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/sarasaltman","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"14673913","body":"Thanks for posting the video. We'll look at it in class tomorrow.","dateCreated":"1253863437","smartDate":"Sep 25, 2009","userCreated":{"username":"MsFalk","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/MsFalk","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/pic\/1250807416\/MsFalk-lg.jpg"}}],"more":0}]},{"id":"14670037","dateCreated":"1253848599","smartDate":"Sep 24, 2009","userCreated":{"username":"neagbaya","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/neagbaya","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/14670037"},"dateDigested":1532140555,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Unacceptable","description":"I once knew a man who excessively abused his wife, and these types of incidents remind me of his cruelty. There is absolutely no excuse for hitting a woman (unless she has a gun and trying to kill someone), and such actions are unforgivable.
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\nHowever, it is also necessary to point out the double standard in this incident. For instance, if a man is caught by a woman cheating on her, and beats him up, and even sends him to the hospital, most people, including me, will just laugh and even praise the woman. But, when it happens to a woman, like in this case, the reactions from people would be very different, and much more negative.
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\nBut, regardless, violence is never the answer. And if your boyfriend or your girlfriend is cheating on you, maybe you should take the time to know the facts first before making any rash decisions.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"14673919","body":"Good to point out the double standard here, Nestor.","dateCreated":"1253863487","smartDate":"Sep 25, 2009","userCreated":{"username":"MsFalk","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/MsFalk","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/pic\/1250807416\/MsFalk-lg.jpg"}}],"more":0}]},{"id":"14669907","dateCreated":"1253848338","smartDate":"Sep 24, 2009","userCreated":{"username":"rachelkaya","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/rachelkaya","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/14669907"},"dateDigested":1532140556,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"How can someone do this?","description":"This story saddened me because it seems like domestic violence is so common now. It is heard about often through the media, but I know the awful stories we hear are probably not even half of them. I think domestic violence is so wide spread because in many cases, it is not reported. The victim is usually afraid of the abuser, and that seems to be what happened in Ms. Giraldo\u2019s unfortunate story. I think Ms. Giraldo preferred to see a plastic surgeon so she could quickly hide the wounds she got from her boyfriend\u2019s fury. Scars, scabs and bruises are all reminders of her past, and I cannot blame her for wanting to cover them permanently. I can see why she would want to see a plastic surgeon, but I do not know why Ms. Giraldo would not be interested in going to a hospital, it could not have been that she was threatened by her husband because he was the one who dragged her to the hospital in the first place. I don\u2019t know why he would drive his injured girlfriend to the farther hospital (though if he had not hit her, she would not need to go any hospital) but he could have taken her farther so she had more time to calm down. It could have been that she was embarrassed or so heavily traumatized that she did not want to go out in public. Whatever her reasoning, I think what happened to Ms. Giraldo is terrible, but not at all uncommon. It is sad that domestic violence is also in the news because the victim most likely just wants to forget about the incident, but cannot due to articles circling in newspapers, magazines and on the internet. I do not believe the story Ms. Giraldo and Mr. Monserrate gave and it disgusts me to hear about such events that probably happen on a daily basis in some households, but hopefully victims feel confident enough to report their abusers because domestic violence is a crime that should not go unpunished.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"14662539","dateCreated":"1253838596","smartDate":"Sep 24, 2009","userCreated":{"username":"spluther","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/spluther","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/14662539"},"dateDigested":1532140556,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Real-Life Horror","description":"It truly is disgusting and scary what the Senator did to his wife. The defense of a woman not wanting to go to the hospital, be it or be it not true, seems impertinent to the fact the Mr. Monserrate abused his wife. If she indeed did not want to go to the hospital, the Senator had no legal way of forcing her to go, and should have allowed his neighbor to convince his wife to go to the hospital.
\n I cannot imagine how the poor woman felt as she was attacked, tried to run, and then then kidnapped by her attacker. Yes, kidnapped: he dragged her away from the neighbor's door, away from the railing, and pulled her off the door when she clearly wanted nothing to do with him. While it was wrong for Ms. Giraldo to be having an affair, at most that warrants is a divorce.
\n This tale, to me, is something that normally one hears about only as scary stories in books or movies. Likewise, in books and movies, someone is being chased by a monster. Thus, I define Mr. Monserrate as a monster. I hope to god that they convict him and send him to jail for a decade or two, maybe more. There is nothing on Earth or in the world that justifies his actions. It truly is sad that such things occur.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]}],"more":true},"comments":[]},"http":{"code":200,"status":"OK"},"redirectUrl":null,"javascript":null,"notices":{"warning":[],"error":[],"info":[],"success":[]}}