{"content":{"sharePage":{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"38800060","dateCreated":"1305014280","smartDate":"May 10, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"Keahi","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Keahi","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/38800060"},"dateDigested":1532140578,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"7 Lies","description":"I really enjoyed reading this article. I found it funny as well as true that some of the lies that both men and women tell are the lies that men and women often times tell each other. Although I agree that men and women tell the same lies, I would also have to disagree with some of the lies that are being told. I think it's important to know that not all men and women tell these lies to one another, but there are a handful of men and women who do tell lies to their loved ones. I found it interesting when it is said that "women lie and they tend to focus on making others feel better". I found this to be true because I have seen and heard first hand women tell men this and then turn it around and say something completely different. Another quote that I agree with is that "men are more likely to lie to enhance themselves than women are". I find it so true because men use sayings to make them seem better then someone else and it makes them feel better about themselves. I would have to totally agree that the lies that men commit are usually lies that they will commit at some point during their lives.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"38682640","dateCreated":"1304720906","smartDate":"May 6, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"marissachow","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/marissachow","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/38682640"},"dateDigested":1532140578,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"7 Lies","description":"I thought this article was very true because I have heard these comments my males before. I think that these lies are very hurtful to a girls self esteem because girls often do fish for compliments but it is not always the best things to do. Not very many people are going to lie because they do not want to make their friends feel bad. On the other hand I think that it is not always the males fault that they lie to women. I think that both sides cause this deteriorating of a relationship or marriage. If women and men cannot admit that they are wrong or if they cannot handle the truth, then they do not know themselves or trust themselves enough to be in a relationship with another person. It all comes down to trust. A person needs to have the trust of themselves and the other person in order to have a chance to make a relationship work through difficult times. This article was very true but I think that women and men are equally guilty.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"38682190","dateCreated":"1304719634","smartDate":"May 6, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"tiffli","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/tiffli","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/38682190"},"dateDigested":1532140578,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"7 Lies","description":"1. What are other lies than men tell women? Why?
\n2. What are lies that women tell men? Why?
\n3. When is lying acceptable? Not acceptable?
\n4. Do you beleive the truth will set you free? Why?
\n5. Is lying something that we born with or do you acquire it from others as you mature?
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\nIn a way, I agree with this article because yes, I believe that men do lie in order to boost their male ego most of the time. However, I don't agree that women lie in order to please other people. I think that the reason why everyone lies in the first place is to avoid getting into trouble or psyching yourself out to the extent where you start to believe your own lie. Yes, I do believe that women should be cautious with their men's lies but there are some women who get to the point of paranoia and constantly doubt the words of their significant other. I'm not sure when it's ever acceptable to lie. However, it's something that we all can't really avoid because it's in our human nature. It could even be the smallest lie such as "Yes, I walked the dog this afternoon, honey." Even though you didn't and had to lie in order to avoid a lecture on the lack of exercise with your pet. There are just so many things that you can just lie about everything! It just depends on how big of a lie you make it. I believe that if the lies keep piling up, "you just made a mountain out of a molehill." I think that the entire truth factor has to all deal with the amount of respect that you have for that person. If you respect them, you know that their trust is what's most important to you and you would never want to lose that just because of a lie. You have to find an equal balance of trust in order to attain a good relationship.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"38680362","dateCreated":"1304714801","smartDate":"May 6, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"mischwin","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/mischwin","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/38680362"},"dateDigested":1532140578,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Lies","description":"I really enjoyed reading this article because it is something i think about al the time, although I dont exactly agree with everything it says. I agree that women tell lies to make others feel better and men tell lies to boost their self esteem; however, I think it goes both ways. I think women also tell lies to make themselves feel better and to make others feel better, and same with men. I also feel that men and women lie in order to not embarrass themselves. it was really interesting to read the type of lies people tell. In my relationship I dont find myself saying any of these lies, but this is definitely something i notice and think about a lot.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"38680102","dateCreated":"1304714237","smartDate":"May 6, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"eriNISHappi","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/eriNISHappi","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/38680102"},"dateDigested":1532140578,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"7 Lies","description":"The article was very entertaining. It seems reminiscent of many relationships and does indeed remind me of conversations that have been overheard or seen in a movie or television show. It's almost eerie how even though we pride ourselves on individuality and inherit uniqueness, that the lies we tell are all pretty much the same or at least serve the same purpose. Yes, some of the lies or types of lies that were presented in the article were "white lies" or lies that were there to preserve the significant others' ego or save the other from worry however honesty and openness is key to a healthy relationship. Lying is a skill we have acquire as soon as we learn to speak coherently and comprehend the words we are saying, the feelings of others and a vague sense of right from wrong. We lie to appease another individual or lessen the consequences of our own actions or in-actions. Though the truth will not always set you free, it is best to take the honest road and deal with the consequences rather than attempt to keep up the lies. For hasn't it always been that once the lie became revealed the offended party always said, "I wouldn't have been as mad if you had just told me the truth. I'm just disappointed that you felt the need to lie to me..."","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"38680084","dateCreated":"1304714200","smartDate":"May 6, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"materaya","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/materaya","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/38680084"},"dateDigested":1532140578,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Lies","description":"I really enjoyed reading this article. I thought a lot of what was said was true even though I dont really notice it but after i read this article, i was like, "oh, yeah, this is totally true." I think that men lie about emotions also and women tend to lie about liking things that guys like just to please and satisfy their man or even to impress them. I guess lying is acceptable when you are doing like a white lie or like when the outcome of the situation will not be such a big deal however i dont think that you should lie because you dont want your relationship to be made up of a bunch of lies. I believe the truth will set you free because if you dont say the truth, then it will be bottled up inside of you and you are always going to have that uncomfortable feeling until you let it out. I think we acquire lying from others because we dont no any better but to tell the truth when we are young but as we grow up, we learn to lie because of the standards that we are held up to.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"38672002","dateCreated":"1304704777","smartDate":"May 6, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"akhatana","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/akhatana","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/38672002"},"dateDigested":1532140578,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Lies","description":"This article was pretty spot on. I would definitely be attracted to a smart man (lie number one.) Other lies that men tell women include, \u201cyou\u2019re the most beautiful woman I\u2019ve ever seen,\u201d \u201cI would never look at another woman,\u201d and \u201cI would never lie to you.\u201d The first two pare probably told to women in order to either get on a woman\u2019s good side, or to boost her self-confidence. The latter would be told to women so that men can get women to trust them. Lies women tell men are faking an orgasm, \u201cyou are so manly\/muscular,\u201d \u201cI need you to do .\u201d These are told basically so that a man can get a dose of narcissistic, primitive pleasure of being a man. Lying is not acceptable when one\u2019s trust is at stake; however, I think lying is acceptable when women try to placate their significant other by saying, \u201cI need you to do this,\u201d because it makes the man feel better about himself. Lying is also acceptable I think, if you are trying to protect your significant other in a life or death situation.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"38668466","dateCreated":"1304702388","smartDate":"May 6, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"kehu93","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/kehu93","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/38668466"},"dateDigested":1532140579,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Lies","description":"I found this article to be pretty funny. I'm glad most of the lies in this article were mild and not that serious. But, as the author said, even small, trivial lies can lead up to big problems. While I try not to lie, and I used to say I never lie, I find that I will often be inclined to lie in order to make others happy. Recently, as girls suggested their friends for me to take to prom, I found it much easier to say "Oh, I've never really talked to her" or something like that, rather than saying I simply didn't want to take her. I imagine saying something like "She's not good looking" would lead to an outrage and general chaos. While it probably is not right to be lying, I feel like telling the truth in some cases would lead to greater problems than lying would. I also wonder if not telling the truth is equivalent to lying. If a guy does not tell a girl something and simply chooses not to mention it, is he doing the same as lying? While the two actions technically are not the same, the effect could be the same. I liked how the article said that girls lie to make others feel better and guys lie to protect their ego. Do women not have egos to protect? I feel like I don't really lie to protect my ego. I'd like to think that I don't have an ego. When something embarrassing happens to me, I like to tell my friends about it and have a good laugh. But I guess it all depends on what kind of embarrassment it is. I'm sure there are some things that I would probably be disinclined to tell others about.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"38644800","dateCreated":"1304668411","smartDate":"May 6, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"kisouza","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/kisouza","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/38644800"},"dateDigested":1532140579,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Lies","description":"I thought this article was very interesting because I never really thought there was a difference between men and women lying. I thought all people lied because they didn\u2019t feel comfortable with the truth and felt as if others would think of them differently if they told the truth. If they didn\u2019t lie they think they wouldn\u2019t be accepted. I think people can\u2019t tell just one lie because once you tell one lie you have to constantly keep lying to cover up the previous lie and the problem just gets bigger and bigger until others find out you were lying the entire time. Now instead of telling the truth and having a minor problem now you lied so no one can trust you and you have even a bigger problem than you would\u2019ve had if you just told the truth from the beginning. I think men lie to women more and women tend to be straighter up with guys and just tell them the truth. For example a guy wont tell a girl your clothes doesn\u2019t look good he would tell her it looks fine or he would tell it in a nicer way like the article said, but a female would tell a male that shirt doesn\u2019t look good go change it now.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]},{"id":"38644208","dateCreated":"1304665190","smartDate":"May 5, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"KFhulagirl","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/KFhulagirl","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/iolaniwomenlit.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/38644208"},"dateDigested":1532140579,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Lies","description":"The seven lies in this article surprised me a little. When I read the title, I expected the lies to be much more dramatic. Something along the lines of saying "I love you" when they don't really mean it. I think this is a statement can be flattering but can break a relationship in a second. It's the worst when a guy tells a girl that he loves her and then breaks up with her a little while after. This causes the girl to have serious doubts about men and if she can really trust them. It's hard for her to open up to someone again when someone betrayed her. I believe trust is very important in a successful relationship. If two people are honest with each other they don't have to worry about trivial matters.","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[],"more":0}]}],"more":true},"comments":[]},"http":{"code":200,"status":"OK"},"redirectUrl":null,"javascript":null,"notices":{"warning":[],"error":[],"info":[],"success":[]}}