THE TRUTH of the matter is - kissing up, convincing and being too “sweet” can kill attraction.
The truth of the matter is - kissing up, convincing and being too “sweet” can kill attraction.
Why?
Our subconscious reacts in ways you often can't control and aren't very aware of.
Being too “nice” sends a signal to the “deep” part of the mind that tells you “this person isn't desirable and is lower status”.
I know, this might sound kind of dark, power-hungry or weird to you, but it's what happens with us humans.
People don't value what they can have too easily, whether they admit it or not.
Ultimately, when women are around “nice guys”, they end up unconsciously thinking, “This man isn't desirable, I shouldn't date or pursue this guy”.
The "nice guys finish last" view is that there is a discrepancy between women's stated preferences and their actual choices in men. In other words, women say that they want nice guys, but really go for men who are "jerks" or "bad boys" in the end. Desrochers (1995) claims that many "sensitive" men do not believe that women want "nice guys" due to their personal experiences.[6]
According to McDaniel (2005), popular culture and dating advice "suggest that women claim they want a 'nice guy' because they believe that is what is expected of them when, in reality, they want the so-called 'challenge' that comes with dating a not-so-nice guy."
THE TRUTH of the matter is - kissing up, convincing and being too “sweet” can kill attraction.
The truth of the matter is - kissing up, convincing and being too “sweet” can kill attraction.
Why?
Our subconscious reacts in ways you often can't control and aren't very aware of.
Being too “nice” sends a signal to the “deep” part of the mind that tells you “this person isn't desirable and is lower status”.
I know, this might sound kind of dark, power-hungry or weird to you, but it's what happens with us humans.
People don't value what they can have too easily, whether they admit it or not.
Ultimately, when women are around “nice guys”, they end up unconsciously thinking, “This man isn't desirable, I shouldn't date or pursue this guy”.
http://www.earthlingcommunication.com/a/attraction/dating-advice-for-a-single-woman.php
http://ezinearticles.com/?Attract-Any-Woman-You-Want---Just-Develop-Bad-Boy-Personality&id=1905076
Bad boys:
independent, spontaneous, in-control, ^^
callous, self-obsessed, deceitful, confident, indifferent, manipulative, exciting
Nice guys:
dependable, amiable, polite, courteous, caring, comitted, respectful
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1027498/Why-bad-boy-Bond-girl.html
http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/columns/singles/2007/20-niceguys.html
The "nice guys finish last" view is that there is a discrepancy between women's stated preferences and their actual choices in men. In other words, women say that they want nice guys, but really go for men who are "jerks" or "bad boys" in the end. Desrochers (1995) claims that many "sensitive" men do not believe that women want "nice guys" due to their personal experiences.[6]
According to McDaniel (2005), popular culture and dating advice "suggest that women claim they want a 'nice guy' because they believe that is what is expected of them when, in reality, they want the so-called 'challenge' that comes with dating a not-so-nice guy."
nice guys offer friendship bad boys offer romance
http://www.lovemusiclovedance.com/singles/bad-boys.htm
bad boy persona
http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Bad-Boy-Syndrome&id=2730952
http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/AllGirlsWantBadBoys
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